What to Answer When a Man Asks You “What Are You Looking For?” in Dating
The Feminine Role: Shine the Light
In a relationship dynamic, the feminine energy ‘shines the light’ on where she wants to go, and the masculine energy takes her hand and leads them both there.
So, when a man asks you what you’re looking for, it’s your opportunity to communicate your vision clearly. Here’s how you can prepare for that conversation:
How to Get Clear on What You Want
Ask yourself these key questions:
What is my ‘Happy Ever After’ headline?
(For example: marriage with children, marriage without children, long-term commitment with separate homes, etc.)What does my Happy Ever After feel like?
(Do you want to feel safe, secure, adored, loved, cherished?)
Once you’ve identified this for yourself, you’ll be in a great position to share it with a man when the time comes.
What to Say When He Asks
When a masculine energy man asks you what you’re looking for in dating, be honest and direct. For example:
“I’m looking to marry and have children with a man who makes me feel safe, loved, and cherished. How about you?”
“I’m looking for my Happy Ever After in a long-term relationship where I feel adored, secure, and special. What are you looking for?”
This kind of answer gives him clarity, showing him that you know what you want and allowing him to decide if his desires align with yours. Masculine energy men are drawn to women who are clear on what will make them happy because it allows him to step into his role of leading and providing.
Why “I’ll Know It When I See It” Doesn’t Work
Masculine energy men will be put off by women who give vague answers such as “I’ll know when I see it”. A masculine energy man thrives on making a woman happy, and will be attracted to a woman who he knows exactly how to please her and make her happy. As the feminine energy, it is your job to ‘shine the light’ on what you want so he can take you there.
Ready to Get Clear on Your Happy Ever After?
In my 1:1 12-week program, Masculine Energy Magnet, part of what we do is get you knowing and believing that you can have your Happy Ever After — that it is possible for you.
Next step, you will follow a step-by-step process that will get you to your Happy Ever After quickly, without all the heartbreak, hurt, and exhaustion on the way there.
If you’re ready to stop wasting time and start attracting the right man for you, book a free discovery session with me to apply for my program.
Love, Isla x
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