5 Ways I Used to Accidentally Push My Partner into His Feminine
In my journey of self-discovery and relationship growth, I realised that I was inadvertently pushing my partner into his feminine energy.
Here are five ways I did this and the lessons I learned along the way.
1. I Wasn't Receiving from Him Enough
For example, in the early days of our relationship, I was working as a nanny part-time and teaching music part-time, neither of which were my passions.
My partner, ever supportive, told me that I could quit and he would take care of me.
However, I felt too guilty at the thought of not contributing financially, so I continued to work.
This guilt kept me from receiving his generosity and support fully, thus blocking his masculine energy from flourishing.
Giving is masculine energy - but he can’t give to you if you won’t let him.
2. I Wasn't Appreciating Him Enough
I found myself focusing more on what my partner was doing wrong and the needs he wasn’t meeting, rather than appreciating his efforts and the needs he WAS fulfilling.
What you focus on will expand - focus on the good, the good gets better.
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3. I Was Disrespecting Him
I wasn’t respecting his decisions and I wasn’t taking his ‘no’ for an answer.
For example, when he said he wasn’t ready to move in together, I tried to change his mind and convince him why it would be a good idea, instead of accepting his decision and dealing with my own emotions about it.
I was also disrespecting him by communicating my emotions in a blaming and accusatory manner, instead of a respectful one.
For example, instead of saying I love you. And I was feeling excited to get your call last night. And I felt sad when it never came.
I used to say things like you didn’t call when you said you would.
4. I Was Trying to Change Him
I was trying to mold him into the kind of man that I wanted him to be, instead of accepting the man he was and then making a decision to either stay or leave based on that.
I felt too afraid to leave the relationship, so I tried to make him into who I wanted him to be instead.
The irony is that when I stopped trying to make him grow, change, and evolve, he started doing it all by himself and became the man I always wanted him to be.
He started reading self-development book after self-development book.
He started getting physically stronger.
His mental health drastically improved.
He became the strong, assertive, mentally stable, masculine energy provider and protector I had always wanted him to be.
Acceptance leads to growth.
5. I Was Mothering Him
Treating my partner as if he were incapable or incompetent was another way I unknowingly pushed him into his feminine energy.
I would do things like remind him of his barber appointments, insist he wear his coat to avoid getting sick, and even refuse to let him cut vegetables while cooking for fear he might hurt himself.
These actions, though well-intentioned, undermined his ability to take care of himself and diminished his masculine energy.
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And this will help him be in his true masculine with you!
