How to Make Men See You as High Value - The One Who is Right for Marriage
What makes you high value to a man has nothing to do with:
Whether you’re good at cooking/like cooking/cook for him
Whether you wear dresses/make-up/heels/you ‘dress elegantly’
Whether you nurture others/you’re nurturing
Whether or not you have a ‘good job’
How goal-oriented you are
Whether or not you can take care of the home and/or kids
Being a ‘trad-wife’ and fulfil the ‘traditional’ role of a woman
How many things you have in common with him
How good you are in bed
What you look like
What makes you high value to a man is your feminine energy.
That’s it.
It’s not about what you DO, it’s about how you ‘be’.
I feel excited to share with you some qualities of a high value, feminine woman, and how you can work on cultivating them...
1. Vulnerability:
Feminine energy is emotional, expressive, vulnerable, soft, authentic, and open.
A feminine women opens her heart to every man.
To cultivate this quality, work on feeling self-assured, safe and secure WITHIN yourself.
This will allow you to feel safe to express your true feelings and stop feeling like you have to protect yourself from every one all the time.
2. Trusting:
You are high value to a man when you make him feel trusted.
When you trust him to take care of you, when you trust his intentions with you, when you trust that if he says he’ll do something, he’ll do it, when you trust in his ability to take care of himself and make the best decisions for himself without your interference.
To work on trusting men, work on trusting YOURSELF and cultivating a strong sense of self-trust WITHIN.
This will allow you to trust men, because you know and trust that you’ll be okay and safe no matter what.
3. Accepting:
You are high value to a man when you make him feel accepted, and when you don’t try to change him.
To work on accepting him, work on developing the belief that there are MANY men who will love you and meet your needs, so you don’t need to ‘mold’ this man into what you want him to be.
Also work on meeting these needs for yourself.
4. Receptive:
High value men want to GIVE.
And you are high value to them if you can RECEIVE what they have to give.
For example, when someone ‘gives’ you a compliment, do you fully receive it?
Or do you reject it (tell them that it’s not true) or feel like you have to give one back in return in order to make it ‘even’?
The feminine response to a compliment is simply:
“Thank you so much. That feels so lovely to hear.”
Or when someone buys you a gift, do you fully receive it?
Or do you tell them “You shouldn’t have done this!” or “I can’t possibly accept this!”?
Again, the feminine response to receiving a gift is simply:
“Wow. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. It feels amazing to receive this from you”.
Work on improving your self-worth, so that you can stop feeling guilty for being in your feminine energy start finding it easy to receive.
5. Appreciative:
A woman who makes a man feel appreciated is high value to him.
Work on shifting your focus from what he is doing wrong and the needs he is NOT meeting, to acknowledging his efforts and appreciating the things he is doing RIGHT, and communicating these things with him.
Grab my FREE 3 Steps to Make a Man Feel Appreciated.
6. Self-focused:
A woman who is focused on herSELF and her life, rather than being focused on doing things for him, reaching out to him first, being very attached to him and putting him on a pedestal is high value to a man.
Unless you’re in his presence/phone/texting, it should be as though he doesn’t even exist to you.
ALL of your focus should be on YOU.
To cultivate this quality, work on falling in love with yourself and making yourself feel all the ways you want a man to make you feel, and connecting with your passions and things that absorb your attention.
Create an amazing, fulfilling life OUTSIDE of him!
7. Self-loving:
A woman who loves herself, feels confident, worthy, good enough, can be herself around him, and can set boundaries is high value to a man.
Work on healing your inner child trauma so you can love and accept all of you.
8. Respectful:
A woman who makes a man feel respected is high value to him.
Work on respecting and accepting his decisions, even if they are not what you wanted.
Work on communicating in a respectful way, rather than a blaming and judgemental way.
In my 1:1 dating & relationship coaching, I give you simple, practical tools that help you:
feel safe inside so you can feel confident enough to express your true feelings
Increase your self worth so you stop feeling unworthy and start feeling like you deserve to be receptive and in your feminine energy
Heal trauma from childhood and past relationships so you can love yourself more and become The Prize
Take your focus off him so you stop being desperate and smothering him with your hyper-fixation on him
I also give you the words to say to him to share your upset and anger in a feminine, calm way.
Ready to be a high value woman?
