Dating is Not About Having Fun or Having a Good Time
Today I had a client text me and say:
“The guy I went on a date with yesterday wants to meet me again. And I want him to organise a date on a boat or something like an event where we can go and have fun. How can I tell him without suggesting?”
My answer to her was that the purpose of dating is not ‘have fun’, explore new places in your town, or have a good night out.
It’s about getting to marriage with a provider husband who makes you feel protected, seen, heard, and secure, and taking steps towards that.
The Real Purpose of Dating
Dating is about getting relationship ready.
When you are relationship ready, the right man will show up.
How do you get relationship ready?
Use dating as a form of free therapy!
Here’s what I mean:
1. Notice the Kind of Men You’re Attracting
Reflect on the types of men you attract and what they might be mirroring about your relationship with yourself.
This gives you valuable insights into what you need to heal to be more in your feminine energy.
If you’re attracting flaky men: Ask yourself, “Where am I being flaky with myself?”
If you’re attracting men who aren’t committing: Ask yourself, “Where am I not committed to myself?
2. Stay in Your Feminine Energy
Notice the things men say and do that emotionally trigger you.
Learn to stay in your feminine energy in these moments instead of reverting to masculine energy to protect yourself.
Unlearn unhelpful patterns, anger, judgments, and disappointments with every date.
Getting to Your Happy Ever After
This approach is what’s going to get you to your Happy Ever After with a masculine man who spoils you and loves you wholeheartedly just as you are.
In my dating coaching program, Masculine Energy Magnet, I provide practical tools that you can use anytime, anywhere (including on dates) to help you:
Heal trauma from childhood and past relationships.
Feel safe within yourself.
Soothe your anxiety.
Stop bringing masculine energy into your dating life and relationships.
These tools will help you stay in your feminine energy with men even when it’s hard, change what you’re attracting, and break unhelpful patterns that are moving you away from engagement to your Happy Ever After man.
Letting Go of Control
If you want to go on a boat because it seems fun, do it by yourself or take some friends!
If you’ve heard about a new restaurant that’s supposed to be great, go with a friend!
Let dating be the place where you practice releasing control, surrendering, and being in your feminine energy.
Practice receiving, and let a man lead and take charge.
Ready for a Serious Relationship?
Looking for a healthy protector and provider who wants a serious relationship?
Click the button below to book a free discovery session with me to apply for my 1:1 dating coaching program, Masculine Energy Magnet.
Dating is a journey toward finding the right partner for marriage.
Embrace the process, learn from it, and let it help you become the high-value, feminine woman who attracts the masculine man you desire.
