How I Inspired My Man to be More in His Masculine
My man was way too feminine and I used to wonder if it would ever change.
I used to struggle with him a lot, and I considered breaking up with him, yet at the same time, that felt inconceivable.
The thought of not being with him was a terrifying one - it was so comfortable and safe with him, I knew where I stood, I knew that he would never stray and that he loved me so much.
But it just didn't seem to be enough, and I couldn't accept the way things were and the way he was, so I just didn't know what to do.
I felt lost and afraid.
I was really trying to be patient and compassionate with him but it was difficult.
I wanted to be warm, caring and connected with him but I was often angry and resentful instead.
I found it hard to slow down, not act quickly and impulsively, and not be quick to anger.
But when I was quick to anger, I didn't like myself.
Every time I let him take the wheel due to me wanting to be in my feminine energy, he always messed up.
Whether it was a restaurant booking or a parcel needing to be delivered and collected, he would always either be clumsy and book the wrong dates or miss the important deliveries or end up taking me somewhere to arrive and find out the place was closed.
Then he would get angry and disappointed with himself when he let me down, and beat himself up but it was tiring for me to try to calm him and tell him 'it's okay' and 'it wasn't meant to be'.
Again, I felt extremely masculine because he got emotional and I was there trying to tell him it's okay.
And when I told him to plan (not only did I feel assertive and lose that feminine energy) but I also used to get disappointed that I had to tell him to do so for it to happen or else it wouldn’t have.
I was craving and longing for an alpha male, and I didn't know how much longer I could continue in a relationship without one, where I rarely felt like the woman.
I felt exhausted and frustrated.
Now, I am with the same man, but I have a completely different relationship.
I feel excitement and attracted to his ability and willingness to initiate.
He dresses smartly.
I feel attracted to him.
He pulls out the chair for me, and pays the bill every time.
He provides for me and takes care of me and has no problem doing so.
He understands and appreciates everything that my body is capable of, and he knows that it must be treated tenderly as I am not hard like him, I am soft.
He makes me feel feminine, gentle, delicate, passive and soft, as he is masculine, strong, assertive and hard.
He is fascinated by me as I am everything he is not, both physically and internally.
He encourages me to do whatever I can and need to nurture myself, as he understands that I can give most to the relationship when I am feeling rested.
When I am menstruating it, he honours it and encourages me also.
He brings me chocolate, and encourages me to indulge and to rest.
He appreciates me and everything I do for him.
And he is happy, because his deep-seeded need to provide is being fulfilled.
Our roles are both clear and defined, and we both understand that we contribute equally to the relationship.
Our attraction is magnetic due to the extreme polarity, and we balance each other out.
We are really happy and fulfilled.
He is completely mentally stable, and no longer struggles with mental illness.
I feel relaxed because I can sit back and let him take care of things.
I feel taken care of, delicate, special, desired, secure, fulfilled, nourished, gentle, soft, and protected.
The thing that completely transformed our relationship was when I dropped into my feminine energy.
There were many things that were blocking me from being in my feminine energy…
Childhood trauma…
A lack of positive, feminine role models…
My anxious attachment style…
Putting men on a pedestal…
Not feeling safe and secure…
Ineffective communication…
Overthinking…
Low confidence and self-worth…
Witnessing toxic, dysfunctional and unhealthy relationship growing up between my parents…
Having an emotionally unavailable father…
My beliefs…
Difficulty receiving…
Not having good boundaries…
But I removed all of these barriers so that I could live in my femininity and bring out the provider, masculine side of my man.
Here’s how I did it:
1. Feminine Energy Communication: I learned how to communicate with my partner from my feminine energy.
2. Past Trauma and Anxious Attachment Healing: I healed my childhood trauma and my anxious attachment style, which were causing me to be in my masculine and preventing me from from staying soft and feminine.
3. Understanding the Core Male Emotional Needs: I learned about the 7 core emotional needs that need to be met for a man be in his true masculine - and I started meeting these needs of his.
4. Connecting with My Happy Ever After: I got clear on what I wanted in a relationship and most importantly, how I wanted to feel, so I could get there fast.
5. Challenging My Beliefs: I challenged, questioned, and changed my unhelpful beliefs about men, myself, and relationships that were moving me away from a relationship where I felt feminine, taken care of, and fulfilled.
This is the process I guide you through in the program. I am there to point out your blind sides and help you unlearn unhelpful patterns.
The purpose of this program is to remove these barriers and get you to where I was and you are right now to where I am now (and where I want you to be too): Feeling feminine with a healthy protector and provider.
Ready to be in your feminine and help your man be in his true masculine?
Apply for a free discovery session today and let’s see if you’re a good fit for the program!
